Dealing with Your Biggest Critic: Yourself

There are times when you call yourself “dumb,” “fat,” or “ugly,” but no matter how much you may not want to believe or notice it, you are in fact your worse critic. For some, self-criticism can be a method to keep them grounded and humble. Yet, there are others who believe that their self-criticism is true and turns it into self-loathing. When you have a low sense of self, it is difficult to allow positivity into your daily life, to the point where you will miss all of the good that you are capable of. So how do you start loving yourself, even when you do not feel like you should? has great tips and techniques that will help you feel better about yourself.

These are not feelings that can change over-night; therefore, it is okay to take to time to see what values you have. acknowledges that “with practice, time, and patience, there’s a good chance you will begin to view yourself more positively.” When you feel less adequate to those around you, try to “rationalize your response.” If a situation does not go your way, it is not because you are not good enough. Assess the situation and understand all the factors that played in our lack of self-esteem in the very moment. Once you consider all of the possibilities, you can then avoid any decisions next time and realize that there are different opportunities for everyone and yours will come when you are fully prepared.

But as notes, “unfortunately, you might also find that you remain committed to your old, self-critical beliefs – irrationally fighting the new, more positive thoughts.” Therefore, rationalizing your response may not work. But do not give into your self-criticism, instead “work to understand how you arrived at it.”

Was there something that happened in your past that made you not believe your self-worth in the present? states that “once you ’get’ this, you will be naturally more likely to be less self-critical.” Take the time to figure out why a particular situation makes you stop believing in yourself. By doing this, you will develop a “compassionate self-awareness,” which will help you become less critical of yourself. This kind of self-awareness can bring positivity into your life because it will help you take away the negativity by pulling out is root. After discovering where the negativity comes from, you can make room for self-love.

About Stacy Narine

Originally from Paterson, NJ, I recently graduated from Seton Hall University with my B.A in English. I will be starting my M.A program in Literature at Seton Hall University in spring 2015. I love Pinterest, Photoshop, and writing fictional short stories about characters who are trying to establish a sense of individuality while in relationships. Ready to momentarily stray from fiction, I am motivated to write about topics that are important to women.

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