You’ve doubtlessly got that one sweetheart of a friend who gloats about her unusual ability to attract a man. The little wench is probably wearing bacon in her bra, and it would not matter if she was at the doctor’s office or doing the laundry she could still pick up a dude! That drove you to consider whether perhaps the bar scene was right for you. Surely there’s some sense in thinking that. The problem is that your dream date is a fantasy. He has either got the appeal of Hemsworth, the swagger of Cooper or, surely, the looks of a particular Eastwood that melts women’s hearts.
If all else fails, respectable men do not mind being hit up on when being the center of a womans eye. In all actuality, it can be an appreciated gesture. That does not mean they value it in each circumstance. You may imagine that it is fine to hit on a fine specimen of a man at the rec center or the beach. However – Newsflash, women – it is not the smooth move you think it is. Just because it worked for one person does not mean it works for everybody. So here are the worst places to pick up men:
Never ask out someone you without with at the gym. It is just setting you up for dissatisfaction. It is safe to say that you will make him uncomfortable, and there may be whispers in the office about your crush. If your love interest knows, then your boss will know and who has time for that? The danger of being unemployed is another factor. A place of worship is not the spot to ask out someone either. Why, because he needs to look at himself from the inside out while he is in the process of becoming a better person by being there. He is not there to get a young woman and if you are there that means you are not making strive in any of your progress in your love life.
Another place that isn’t suitable for meeting a man is a nearby bistro. They go there to work, and they may not even have a real workspace. They would rather not talk and beyond question should be allowed to sit unbothered. So chug your espresso and move along to work
Also, never ask someone out while you are at the gym. They are exercising, and you’ll have to compete with the twenty-year-old with abs of steel next to him for his attention. However, if you have the body and va va voom then continue with your divine self.
Another tip (and this is a no-go for sure), regardless of the convenience do not date your trainer. Anyone who has ever dated a trainer knows that this is a difficulty in and of itself. Hot clubs or hot bars produce failure as well.
I know this should be clear, but just in case it must be said: a cruise ship is a no. When have you met someone that was with a group of courteous fellows on a cruise ship? Meeting at a salon is another no; a man will want to go in and get out. They would lean toward not being seen, and they are not there to make friends. If they are there to mingle, there is a 50/50 chance they are straight. However, they will just want a quick moment, and they’ll be done with you fast. There is a fair chance they bat for the other team, so save yourself the heartache and move along.
Dismal brunch buffets, yogurt shops, and casual breakfast places are only for young women who want to chat with their mouths full. As a rule, men do not wish to be seen in these sorts of spots. If they are there, it is not smart to pick up a man there. Most likely they are there with their youngsters or run an errand. If they arrive alone, then withdraw and read the above passage knowing knowledge is the key.
One blink and a shake of your butt and you know where you should not be to get a man. Those are just two or three spots on where not to go. You have the ability to attract the man that you want. Your only issue might whom to pick. Why waste your time on false romantic hopes when there are so many qualified men looking for love just like you?
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