After three years together, singer Jason Derulo and actress/singer Jordin Sparks called it quits at the end of last month. Derulo addressed the rumors surrounding the couple’s breakup during “On Air with Ryan Seacrest” and cleared the air on the reason for their split. Derulo tells Seacrest, “What happened… in a nutshell, there was a lot of tension in the relationship for a lot of different reasons.”
After claiming that there was pressure to get married and constant arguing, Derulo continued to explain that “when you stop having more good times than bad times, it’s time to call it quits. It becomes something that is unhealthy.” Jordin Sparks addressed the break-up on “The Wendy William’s Show,” to ensure viewers and followers that she was “good.” According to ryanseacrest.com, she added in the interview “that the break up [may have been] the best thing that could’ve happened to her.”
Ending a long term relationship can be extremely hard when things are not horrible. As psychologytoday.com writes in “If, When—and How—to End an ‘Ok-But-Not-Great’ Relationship,” “It’s when the less-than-terrific times become the norm and you don’t anticipate any terrific ones in the near future, that you naturally (and justifiably) start to think of alternatives.” If you feel content in your relationship, you might start comparing yourselves to other couples and that is never a good thing. Couples should want to keep growing and learning about each other because that is where the spontaneity and excitement starts to come into play.
But at the end of the day, you have to feel “a deep sense of fulfilment.” If you are with someone out of obligation or duty, it might end bad down the line because it will make you think that you have to be with this person, instead of wanting to be. Being wanted is essential to having a solid commitment in a relationship. If you find that your relationship has nothing to offer each other anymore, then the entire relationship might feel like a chore.
To avoid this feeling and potential heartbreak due to infidelity, psychologytoday.com suggests that you be honest with each other and “just keep in mind that, as with any break-up, the pain will fade, but you have the rest of your life to find happiness with someone else. (And so does your partner).” The longer you prolong an “OK” relationship, you are keeping yourself and your partner from finding what you both truly want.
Photo Via Jordin Sparks
