The early stages of a relationship can be considered as a period where you two are the most “lovey dovey.” In this stage you are obsessed with each other and want to spend all the time in the world together. Although this is a wonderful phase, what you both do in your time together is crucial in determining whether or not you two can make it as a long term couple. You may want to spend all your time together inside of the house, but look at these reasons why staying inside can actually stunt the growth of a relationship.
Lose your sense of self
By staying indoors all the time, you can grow too dependent on each other. Being able to depend on your partner is wonderful, but too much dependency can start to make you lose a sense of who you are. This is a problem that long term couples face, but by choosing to date unexclusively you will have this problem sooner rather than later. If you’re constantly stuck under each other the habit of one taking the lead will take hold later down the road.
The “why buy the cow” issue
Why buy the cow if you can buy the milk for free? Ladies, please always keep this question in the back of your mind when you find a man who you feel can handle a long term commitment. It is great that he can commit to you, but he may not want to share the goals of marriage and having a family that you may have. This reaction comes from being too comfortable, and not setting standards in your relationship. If you stay inside most of the time in the time in the beginnings of your relationship, you lose the atmosphere of a public setting where you two can watch and talk about the matters around you and share your view points on them. This is where you will see your similarities and differences, if you stay inside you only know a world with just the two of you, and may not be willing to disrupt that.
Jealousy
Well you have to leave the house at some point, and when this happens, you or your partner may not be very understanding. It’s great to develop an attachment but it needs to be a healthy one. If your partner gets upset that you have to stay longer after work, or are too tired to come over, then it’s an unhealthy attachment, sprung from spending too much time inside, with no time to breathe.
Alienation
You may want to spend time with each other instead of your friends and family. Again, this can be very harmful to the foundation of a relationship that is just beginning. Remember the people who were there before you started this new relationship, and do not shut them out because you want to play house with your new beau. Men and women need their own space in order to know who they are as an individual. So stop suffocating each other and explore the real world together!
