Are you looking at one of your friends under an entirely new light? One that makes you see him or her as more than just a friend? You may feel hesitant to jump on the opportunity for love because you do not want to risk ruining the friendship that you both have. However, if you find that you cannot shake the possibility or being romantically involved out of your head, then follow these suggestions to make your feelings known without scaring your friend away.
Make a list
This idea may seem a bit old school, but the principal behind the method is full proof. Before confessing your love to your friend, make a list of your pros and cons. By making this list, you will be able to see what can be gained if you enter into a romantic relationship with your friend, you will also be able to see what the consequences would be. When looking over your list also consider where both of you are in your lives at the moment. Does your friend want a relationship? Do you really want a committed relationship? In addition to these inquiries, ask yourself 6 questions to ask before telling a friend you’re in love with him that are suggested by yourtango.com.
Speak up clearly
If you find that the pros out way the cons and feel confident in your ability to tell your friend that you two be romantically involved, communicate as clearly as possible. Do not play hypothetical games with “what ifs” because your friend will catch on, giving you little time to recover and clarify what you really mean to say. Tell your friend, what you feel, let them know that you do not expect anything in return, but you wanted to share the idea.
Be respectful not spiteful
Keep in mind that any type of change is hard to accept. Therefore, be aware of the possibility that your friend may not love you back. If your love is unrequited, keep your head up because you knew that there was the chance that your love was not shared. Therefore, do not get mad, respect his or her feelings instead. Also, give your friend the opportunity to process your feelings, so a little alone time to reflect may be good for both of you to think.
Take it slow
If all goes well and your friend returns your affections, do not rush into an intimate relationship. Take the time to get to know each other, like you would a new girlfriend or boyfriend. Remember you only know your friend as a comrade, you do not know how they behave in fully committed relationships. Take things slow and have fun getting to know each other’s romantic side!
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